Saturday, July 15, 2023

Why Telling People to "Accept Reality" Can Be Deeply Problematic and Oppressive Phrasing

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A problem is the word "accept", which quite literally (by definition) has at least two very different meanings.

A) One is more about "consent to receive"

B) One is more about "understand to exist"

The spirit of what you're writing about is B. But, even by the unclear label alone, it hints at pressuring abuse survivors into A - that they "consent" to having been abused. That they "accept" the abuse, meaning saying it was okay that it happened.

The semantic are unclear, and it's horrifically irresponsible communication to not come up with clearer language.

Rather than be held accountable for clearer language, almost EVERY SINGLE professional I've talked to (in the hundreds at this point) insists that it's a problem of the listener and reader for "hearing the meaning" wrong.

Throw out radical acceptance as a term. We deserve better, less hostile and potentially damaging language.

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